I finally accepted that my boyfriend’s mother will never like me. No matter how nice I am, how respectful, kind, sweet I am to her. No matter how much joy I bring her son. No matter how great a mother I am to her grandchildren. Just because we are polyamorous, she will not like or respect me.
what makes a polyamorous relationship successful? Is it length of time you are together? The amount of sex you have? Whether it is primary or secondary in your life? Whether you drop everything for the person? If you vacation together? If you have children together? If everyone was happy? If everything was honest, mutual, and consensual?
Wow! These last few weeks have been a mental health whirlwind for me. I’ve officially had 10 sessions with my poly-friendly therapist, and we’ve discovered a lot. As I was writing the series “I’m The Jealous Wife – And I’m Working on It” (Parts 1, 2, 3, and 4), I was questioning everything. Should I […]
How I’m Working on Myself So, I’ve laid out my issues and insecurities. I’ve opened up about my deep-seated feelings that stem from childhood. I’ve shown that you are not alone in feeling jealous, envious, and insecure when you are in a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve reassured you that feeling those ways doesn’t mean you shouldn’t […]
By June (A Guest Writer) So, a little bit about me. I am married and a mother. I also have a girlfriend, Snow, and a lover, Hatter. Poly is complicated in the best of times, but let’s add in a pandemic! My husband and I live together and raise our littles together, so that is […]
Part 3: How My Insecurities Affect My Friendships/Relationships As mentioned in Part 2, my main insecurities seem to center around not being good enough, others being more fun or cooler than me, and of being abandoned. The ways in which these insecurities present themselves tend to be through paranoia and jealousy/envy, which we touched on […]
Part 2: The History of My Insecurities As we talked about in Part 1, insecurities are the underlying cause of jealousy and envy. So, after you do the first step of acknowledging that you’re feeling jealous/envious, the second step is to figure out where those feelings are stemming from. What is making you insecure? What […]
This is a 4-part series about jealousy, envy, insecurities, and moving past them. Part 1 focuses on explaining the difference between jealousy and envy and how those feelings stem from insecurities. Part 2 details how my past experiences led to my current insecurities. Part 3 shows how my insecurities have caused (and still cause) me […]
*All names have been changed* Brittany grew up in a small, conservative town in a Christian family, where there wasn’t even a choice to be gay. She had no chance to explore her sexuality in her teens or even early 20s. She went from living in a Christian household, where any suspected same-sex attraction was […]
By Patrick (a guest writer) *All names have been changed* Known Since Childhood I knew I was gay as far back as I can remember. When I was younger, I guess I wouldn’t label myself as ‘gay’ because I didn’t have the complete knowledge of what that term meant – or what it meant to […]