I finally accepted that my boyfriend’s mother will never like me. No matter how nice I am, how respectful, kind, sweet I am to her. No matter how much joy I bring her son. No matter how great a mother I am to her grandchildren. Just because we are polyamorous, she will not like or respect me.
what makes a polyamorous relationship successful? Is it length of time you are together? The amount of sex you have? Whether it is primary or secondary in your life? Whether you drop everything for the person? If you vacation together? If you have children together? If everyone was happy? If everything was honest, mutual, and consensual?
Wow! These last few weeks have been a mental health whirlwind for me. I’ve officially had 10 sessions with my poly-friendly therapist, and we’ve discovered a lot. As I was writing the series “I’m The Jealous Wife – And I’m Working on It” (Parts 1, 2, 3, and 4), I was questioning everything. Should I […]
How I’m Working on Myself So, I’ve laid out my issues and insecurities. I’ve opened up about my deep-seated feelings that stem from childhood. I’ve shown that you are not alone in feeling jealous, envious, and insecure when you are in a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve reassured you that feeling those ways doesn’t mean you shouldn’t […]
By June (A Guest Writer) So, a little bit about me. I am married and a mother. I also have a girlfriend, Snow, and a lover, Hatter. Poly is complicated in the best of times, but let’s add in a pandemic! My husband and I live together and raise our littles together, so that is […]
Part 3: How My Insecurities Affect My Friendships/Relationships As mentioned in Part 2, my main insecurities seem to center around not being good enough, others being more fun or cooler than me, and of being abandoned. The ways in which these insecurities present themselves tend to be through paranoia and jealousy/envy, which we touched on […]
This is a 4-part series about jealousy, envy, insecurities, and moving past them. Part 1 focuses on explaining the difference between jealousy and envy and how those feelings stem from insecurities. Part 2 details how my past experiences led to my current insecurities. Part 3 shows how my insecurities have caused (and still cause) me […]
Sometimes it is so hard to write because you don’t know if you’re explaining all your thoughts correctly or how they will be interpreted. You might think it seems perfectly explained in your head but then you realize you forgot to add a key thought. This is a very raw blog; a look into my […]
*All names have been changed for anonymity* I was so interested in my own realization of sexuality that I decided to ask some other people about their experiences. I’ve actually been surprised over the years how many people I know, and have known for years, who identify as something other than heterosexual. I don’t know […]
Our Situation Being involved with two men has often brought up the question of whose last name me and the kids should take. Or should the whole family just make up a new last name or should we hyphenate? Or if we want to reject the patriarchal ways of society, should everyone take my maiden […]